Scene (yesterday): Booking a hotel.
Wife: "Ask xyz, I think there is a 30% discount available".
Me: "Nope, I checked the net, no such deal".
Wife: "What's the harm in asking him?".
Me: "But why? I checked. I am sure. Let it be".
Result: There was a way to get a 30% discount which I got to know from xyz post the booking.
Loss: Money.
Scene (today): Trying to search for a misplaced object.
Mom: Ask the wife, she might have kept it.
Me: No way, she wouldn't touch it.
Mom: Just in case she picked it and kept it somewhere?
Me: No, doesn't make sense, why will she!
Result: After wasting some time, I called my wife as a last resort and she mentioned she had kept it safely in the cabinet.
Loss: Time, Energy.
Scene (has been happening for the last 10 years): Trying to find the right way while driving.
They: Let's ask someone.
Me: No, I know the way.
They: I think we are lost, let's ask a local guy.
Me: Not needed, I'll figure.
They: What's the harm in asking?
Me: Relax, let me manage!
Result: Most of the time I end up asking at a later point or if I don't, we often land up at the place after a lot of struggle.
Loss: Time, Fuel (money), Peace
Something that I (and probably many like me) need to still learn. It requires us to bring about a behavioural change. It's okay to ask. Asking doesn't always make us look needy/bad. Most of the time we don't ask due to silly inhibitions/egos (very true for most men, I believe, when we are driving and are struggling with directions).
This is one reason I always use Google Maps (in a way, I ask the app to help me) everytime I use my car - even if it is on my usual route to work or back from work. Coz I know the Google Maps lady is kind enough to keep nudging me with directions and better routes after assessing the traffic ahead.
Ask. It doesn't cost anything usually. You might actually get what you needed and might end up saving on money/time/anxiety/energy. The worst outcome - you won't get what you were looking for.
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