Wednesday, June 30, 2021

“I felt like Cinderella at the signal”

 “I felt like Cinderella at the signal”


That’s how Shri Gauri Sawant narrated her feelings when she came to Mumbai after her dad banished her for being a transgender and the members of transgender community in Mumbai gave her footwear and some good clothes to wear..

One of her dreams she shared was that she admired Usha Uthup, the great singer, and wanted to be like her [she did narrate how she was elated when Usha Uthup met her on the sets of KBC when she was invited to participate in an episode]. While she may not have achieved that dream, she has still made great achievements in her stride to uplift the #LGBTQ & Sex Workers community in India.

It was an absolute pleasure to listen to Gauri in discussion on the webinar “Being Your Authentic Self With Pride “ hosted by MMC India as part of the PRIDE month initiatives.

Some of us may have seen her in the famous VICKS commercial few years back [here is the link to it in case you haven’t ] as well.

While she shared a lot of views, the simplest way I could summarize them is, be inclusive and accepting - be it Sexual Orientation, Differently Abled, Choice of dressing up, Choice to speak lesser/be less social, Choice to live in a preferred way or Choice of food (Vegan/Vegeterian/Eggetarian/Fisheterian/Non Vegeterian/Only curry but no meat pieces and probably 23 other such classifications), – what matters is how they perform (if you are employing them) and how they treat you. If they are not unkind to you, there is no reason to be unkind to them or dislike them and they deserve to be treated as you would like to be treated by others!

Was nice to see Shashi narrating the whole discussion in sign language.

We can have more Cinderellas around and it doesn’t even need you to act like a Prince [but we can definitely try not act like Cinderella's step mother]…. Just accept and be inclusive…


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Sunday, June 20, 2021

Father''s Day 2021

 Monday


Viana (my 6 yo): Papa, Sunday is Father's Day, but this time I won't be giving you anything (last year she made a beautiful card for me and made some gifts from her toys).
Me: 😔

Tuesday

V: What's your favorite food dish?
Me: Sizzlers.
V: But we will make Khichdi on Sunday.
Me: 😥

Thursday

(I spot her and her friend making some stuff trying to hide from me)

V: We are not making anything for Father's day, we are just playing.
Me: 🤔

Friday

(During her online school.. incidentally I had an office call at same time)

Teacher: OK Kids, what are you planning for Father's Day?
V : Papa, I am not going to do anything but I will tell Teacher a few things for sake of it... it's not true but...
Me : 🤨
V : Can you go to other room and take your calls I am getting disturbed.

I leave the room and then I guess she shared her plans with her Teacher.

Sunday (Today)

1. I get a beautiful card
2. A Brownie Cake
3. A Magic Show
4. A Quiz Show
5. And A Lip Smacking Home Made Sizzler (planning credits Viana, Execution credits Wifey Dearest Shruti Morzaria )

The day ended with our weekend movie routine and this time we saw The Walt Disney Company 's latest treat #Luca on Disney+ Hotstar

With due respect to all fathers of sons... I think the fathers of daughters are super blessed to experience the love and care that a daughter showers on them right from a very tender age... I sometimes ponder if 100 years down the line the Govt may have to come up with a campaign called "Ab Beta Bachao, Beta Padhao" coz the daughters are gonna rule the world! Well, most already are...

Wishing a Happy #FathersDay to everyone!


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Monday, January 18, 2021

Viana - 30 , Papa - 19

 #Uno Scorecard: Viana - 30 , Papa - 19 (Yep, seems i will never get past her!🙄). Yesterday we played 5 games and she won 2 and I won 3 (All baked in the overall score above) so she was upset..


Me: But you are 30 games to my 19, 11 games lead, so be happy!!

Viana: So what.. that was before today.. today you won more than me and when we started today I was 28 and now instead of 33 i am at 30!

After trying to explain her again to enjoy the game and look at long term, what she said had a learning for me.

Learning: - Don't look at past profit/progress as profit/progress. The profit/progress becomes new capital base/norm. So your last (L)earning is just the new base. If u look at it as profit/progress, you may get complacent by thinking pehle ka profit/progress hai so am still doing fine if i don't (L)earn for a while.

Be it wealth or experience, it has to be built upon continuously.


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Sunday, January 17, 2021

UNO Chronicles

 ..to continue the #UnoChronicles .. So I, Viana (5yo) and her mom were playing another game of #Uno .


Me: Uno!

Viana (with a lot of determination) : Take that.. and that...and this ( she dropped a series of draw 4s and 2s in next few rounds and actually won first so it was me and her mom fighting out now)

(Next thing she does - comes next to me and cuddles up)

V: Let me help you beat Mom!

Me: What's the point now, when i was about to win you bombed me!

V: But that was because I was in the game and I had to do it to win... I gave you so many cards so now I'll help you get rid of those and win...


Learning 1 - When you gotta be professional you gotta be professional but its very important to switch your hats once the task/goal is accomplished.

Learning 2 - Don't judge your opponent/peer based on their actions while in the game (or at work)... Look at the hat they are wearing and judge the hat and not the individual.



Saturday, January 16, 2021

Celebrate every win! However big or small!

 ...so it seems I will never get any better at #Uno 🙄 The scoreboard says it all! But I observed something very interesting. Everytime Viana (5 yo) won a game, she updated the scoreboard and did a victory lap around the house showing everyone that she had won a game. So that's 17 Victory Laps so far!


Lesson 1: Celebrate every win! However big or small.

It doesn't end there. After the first few games she lost (ya she was upset so I pulled out the "enjoy the game and not the wins" message as usual) she did something more interesting! Every time she updated my win, she did another round to show the score to everyone. Not with the same wide smile but nevertheless she went around telling everyone "Papa won this one but i am still ahead"

Lesson 2: Take a note of your opponents' victories and be aware that you have lost (talking and accepting losses as imp as celebrating wins?), but also be aware that you have lost just this round but are or will be ahead in the overall game with enough time, skills and efforts..



Friday, January 15, 2021

Draw 4

 Have you ever played UNO? Most of you probably have.. how do you react when your opponent drops a Draw 4 card on you? Annoying right?


But whenever I play with my 5 y.o. daughter, she gets ecstatic when i drop a Draw 4 on her! Why? Coz when she gets to draw 4 cards, she looks at it as an opportunity to get more magical cards, as she calls them (draw 4, draw 2, skip, reverse, wildcard)!!

Superb learning, that we often look at an adverse event as annoying whereas a kid looks at it as an opportunity! And quite often even after dropping the Draw 4s I end up on the losing side coz she makes the most of the 4 cards she drew...

Let's embrace the Draw 4s coming our way - perhaps we will end up with better cards that help us in the longer run..